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Friday, 8 July 2011

BOYFRIENDMAN- A Lovestory of Controlling Boyfriend and His Girl

The doubtful husbands….. yeah obviously the same topic which literal and celluloid veterans used to make us think , introspect ,laugh and also bored us like hell due to repeated and repeated use. May be due to the awareness about the issue, such an aspect about relationships is absent in the main stream media though it still found to be working in comedy scenes of B and C grade films. (Don’t try to show your standard by saying it’s still seen in many soap operas that flood the prime time, you just need to evolve if you say so). What make men to be suspicious like that? Inferiority complex!!!  The single word answer for the issue is quite obvious. Isn’t it? If husbands are like that what will happen with the sugar coated boyfriends?

Love is a colour that touches every one, being extremely aware about the difficulty in removing the colour stains from clothes, our society is really careful about it. We must be the lone democracy in the world who still debates on “Is it love before marriage and life after marriage?”. Though there is no love, the marriage is somewhat certain, when love remains untold and unheard under the great culture.

Time changed, people too, but love didn’t change, never grew beyond its teens. But we always had Bollywood to prove the existence of love in the nation.

Our heroine is with incredible skills, commendable I.Q, kind hearted and great in understanding other’s emotions, often called “an angel on earth” by her friends. She loves to ‘crush’ the handsome boys (secretly) around with eyes like any other teenage girl. But she loved to be the Bella of ‘Twilight’ who got sandwiched in the love triangle of Jacob and Edward. Though her thick glass spects talked too much about her intelligence, her love for Edward, the vampire talked too much about her stupidity towards life.

The thickness of her spects was sufficient to pave her way off to a premier institution. The story begins there. The heroine with heart full of ambition, and with the dream of becoming someone whom the whole nation will admire and someone inspiring for all the women, entered her new arena. Her dreams walked with her, her ambitious eyes twinkled with curiosity. She met new people, explored the world around her. She was learning life. Among the friends she got in the new campus, there was him, our character in lead with killing charm.

A guy with the guitar, (ever since love incarnated in Bollywood, the romantic heroes are born with a guitar in hand, and sentimental and sad heroes with a violin) he was someone to talk in her mother tongue and a lovely company everyone will die for. Knowingly and unknowingly they came too closer.

Then it was a season of sweetness of love, bitterness of being away from each other, the fragrance of those silly jokes and melody of those stupid fights. They never knew how close they came. Then their first vacation came, according to the first law of romantic attraction which Newton didn’t or couldn’t postulate, intensity of love felt is directly proportional to the time and distance that separates one from another. They felt the love; they felt it in each and everything around them.

In that season of love the stupid low esteem love models in her mind was having a great time. Somewhere her dreams became smaller and she drew her horizons under his wings far before both of them could start flying. Meanwhile his mind had greater transformations, from having the best female friend as girlfriend was hell of a privilege for him and his egos bloomed with that. His fears over his authority over her, kept on nagging in his mind. When that thoughts gone viral!!!, then he became ‘Boyfriendman, to whom he assumed himself more powers than ZooZoo 3G.

At the peak of his egos he began his rescue operations. He realized he is on earth to save and guard her from the evils of the modern world and he should provide her the protection that even Life Insurance Co-operation and Prudential ICICI together couldn’t give. He realized that she spends much time online talking to all her friends and making new connections in her areas of interests and discussing about her literature and professional aspirations. Though he was well aware that she knew well how to manage the offenders and online trolls, he badly wanted to prevent her from talking to people he don’t like. He kept on spying those friendships he didn’t relish. After finding spying is tough job He asked her password, and deleted all the friends he found inappropriate, the number of her friends shrunk from 500 to the two digits on a night before her exams. Boyfriendman does the rescue!!!!

The days passed, he realized she has to be saved from wasting her time in talking to her friends and those annoying market calls, he took her a new SIM card and kept the old SIM card to himself, and put that in another phone and kept it with him, to make sure that Taliban is not giving any threat calls to her. Boyfriendman does the rescue!!!!  To those of her old friends who called the he behaved politely enough to make them pissed off or granted his a very honorary “asshole“ certificate.

She was much unaware about the fuss he does with her old SIM card. She didn’t bother much about the deleted friends, though she had lost many of her good friends. She was happy that she had her very own  Boyfriendman. Few of her friends who knew she was tending to be someone else, becoming someone under him, told her to be herself, love is all about accepting one as what one is. She gently replied “he is cool yaar, just he loves me madly, you know he is soooo possessive about me, just like that.”  Knowing that how dumb she became with the weed called love they kept themselves silent, they never had other options.

Some of their mutual friends tried to talk to him, but the boyfriend man had some more view “I know to whom my girl should talk, I can’t accept that kind of culture, I haven’t experienced such culture where a girl can decide to whom she can talk. You don’t have to bother about my business. Don’t you know that it’s bad to interfere in other’s business” They couldn’t ask him about the way he has controlled her life as if she is his colony. Only word they could utter was “asshole” when he spoke about his ‘Boyfriendman does the rescue!!!!’ attitude. He and his friends celebrated silencing the objections as the win of his authority over his most loved and cared girlfriend. After all in our culture it has been made sacred that “the male dictates and the female follows”.

There were many more ‘Boyfriendman does the rescue!!!!’s which bloomed in their incredible romantic life. It went on, he decided to whom she should talk, what she should do. He totally forgot she is a human being like him. She was much addicted to her dependency on him, which she termed ‘intense love’.

Seasons changed. She had to take responsibilities. It was the time to make her mark, then it became a season of realizations. He tried his best to save her from the burden of responsibilities. When his efforts went on, she felt that he has been imposing his silly barbaric egos on her. She found herself alienated from the world she belonged to. Finally she realized she is not she when with him and she started to ignore him. His missed calls and SMSs bundled like government files in her phone. That was the end of their romantic days.

He had a tough time without her, when he missed her it was tough for him to survive. It’s hard to face life, when we lose the love you adored. His friends tried to comfort him saying all the playboy jokes they have ever heard of women. That made him angry at her, but he kept on missing her while she constantly ignored her. That made his condition worse and he was desperate to have her back on the board.

Meanwhile she was reviving her spirits; she started enjoying the life without his prescription for her. She felt herself like a diamond that gave herself to a devil and blamed herself a lot for that. She was in the edge of depression when she sentenced herself to solitude. Her old friends tried the best to bring her back, by their efforts she came back to life and she dreamt of her goals again. But realized she has lost much of time and opportunities on his egos, and then she had to settle for something smaller than she really deserved.

Some of his friends tried to advocate for him. She said flatly that she had moved on and walked away from them. After that his situation got worse; he became a ‘Devdas’. For him it was tougher make his life greener again. His guitar kept on to be melancholic for a while. It was hard for Boyfriendman to be a man again.

Why love is like this around us? Why the girlfriend can’t be accepted as a friend? Why do good and well mannered boys become Boyfriendman when they are in love? Why does the culture tend to tame a girl with dreams? Is our culture pauper about love? Why girls go behind the idiotic romantic characters of low esteems? Why our culture has become the 4th worst for a woman to live?